When your friends are skinny dipping, they are doing it to have fun. When you go skinny dipping with friends, you are all going to get a glance at each others bodies, but you should never stare. You do not stare. It makes other people feel uncomfortable and even insecure about their bodies. Make sure that there are absolutely no children around when you go skinny dipping.
Not only is public nudity illegal, if a minor sees you, you could get further fines or charges pressed against you and your friends. Stay dressed in kid friendly areas. No exceptions. All your friends strip down and jump into the water. First, you can say your goodbyes and leave. The second option is to be the lookout. No woman or man should ever attempt to skinny dip alone, especially on public property. Skinny dipping alone makes it easy for someone to come along and steal the stuff you left on the shore, such as your clothing, car keys, and cell phone.
Being a woman, you are also raising your chances of getting sexually harassed, abducted, or raped. None of us look like the Photoshopped model in the bikini ad of a magazine. Get over it and get over your body hangups. After a meaningful head nod or brief text conversation, you can broach the topic and get everyone jazzed. When you two are super excited, people will feel compelled to be excited, too, and not feel like boring dissenters.
Choose when to do it. There is probably a perfect opportunity coming up, like a pool party, that made you think of this idea. And better yet — morning or night? This way everyone is bustling and ready to go and feeding off the energy of the occasion. Night-time skinny dipping adds a sense of adventure and can help the more self-conscious come out of their shells. But daytime skinny dipping is an option, too, especially if you're somewhere private.
And hello to no tan lines. Yes, spontaneous skinny dipping is a thing, but pre-meditated skinny dipping generally works a lot better. Imagine if you went for it and everyone just looked at you like a loon. Why is this so beneficial? Giving them some notice gives them time to shave or, to be frank, wear a tampon. Let them primp beforehand to up your chances of making it a group endeavor. Part 2. Time it right. Don't try to break out the skinny dipping at the beginning of a party or gathering.
Instead, let things wind down a little bit. Wait until after everyone's arrived, eaten and had time to mingle. When the mood seems mellow, get ready to bring up the topic. Sunrise, sunset, and when the moon is high in the sky are all great times to skinny dip. Introduce the idea. In either case, encourage the person you talked to in Step 2 to join in.
Everyone else will start to get jazzed about the idea when they see another person join. If you're feeling particularly bold, pull an attention-grabbing stunt.
If everybody's practicing their cannonballs and you're up on the diving board, take your suit off at that moment. You'll make a bigger "skinny-dipping entrance.
Lead the undressing, and undress with confidence. You won't feel comfortable getting naked if you're extremely critical or self-conscious about the way that you look. Take your clothes off without hesitation, and without grimacing at your perceived flaws. Think positive things about yourself, and focus on the body parts you like.
No one is perfect, so learn to appreciate the body that you have. Encourage the people around you to be confident, as well. If any friends are hesitant about joining you, try to help them see that flaws are no big deal and that they look fine.
Self-consciousness is one of the biggest mental barriers to skinny dipping. Hide your clothes. In other words, somewhere nearby but hidden. A more modest approach to skinny dipping is to shed your clothes and jump in with your underwear on.
Then, once half-concealed by that sparkly shield of H20, the underwear comes off. If you do it this way, you might find that your friends are less hesitant to join in your fun. Play in the water. Swim, splash around and dive. Be careful about brushing up against other dippers, unless you're sure they're receptive to the contact. I sat at the edge with another girl and just put my feet in the water. I wonder if people are disappointed in me or if they judged me for not going in.
Nobody said anything, but I still felt self-conscious. If the idea makes you anxious, you can just take it off the table. Everyone has their own comfort level when it comes to modesty. The question is whether this is something you want to be part of or not. Maybe you have no interest in being around naked people or find the whole thing unpleasant, in which case you should simply decline the invite. Say thanks but no thanks, then grab a good book or hang out with some of the other counselors.
I was overcome by a sense of unadulterated joy and bliss. That night, I learned that not a single person is perfect, nor thinks of him or herself as being so. For a short moment in time, we were free from the haze of our own self-consciousness and ideals of perfection.
We all have parts of us, whether physical or emotional, that we like to keep hidden from the people we walk through life with. We all have baggage that weighs us down, convincing us that we are somehow inferior to everyone else. We are so judgmental of ourselves that we hardly recognize the things that make each one of us so wonderful and different. We scarcely appreciate the simple moments of exhilaration and relief, and how frequently we could live in that mindset, if only we made an effort of love ourselves a little more.
It just might take swimming naked under the cover of darkness to truly see yourself.
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